Sexual Freedom vs Freedom in Sex!

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Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

Sexual Freedom vs Freedom in Sex!

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Introduction

This post might be a month, or even a year old. But the word ‘sex’ in the title excites us. I have no idea why I am writing this down. Maybe, I’m opening up myself more? Or am I trying to decipher what ‘Sexual Freedom’ and ‘Freedom in Sex’ actually mean, and what impact they have on the society we are living in?

Sex has been a major recreation from time immemorial in human history. The early primitives had no idea about civilization or society. Yet, they gave birth and raised children. What started with hundred people are so, the world is now home to 760 crore people. Out of which, India and China account for 270+ crore people, which is more than 35.5% of the global population.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

So where do the terms ‘Sexual Freedom’ and ‘Freedom in Sex’ fit in this context? Well, they don’t seem to fit. Because they are part of the big picture. Every Tom, Dick and Harry speaks about the population explosion and single-child policy. But none of them, speak about sex, nor discuss their sexual appetite. Many men and women are quite happy to express their sexual desires, emotions and feelings under pseudo names, and fake identities. But not even one of them, dare to speak about the sexual indiscrimination and notion of objectifying sex. Why? Is it the society to be blamed? Or the people who are enclosed within that society?

Most sensual posters of a couple’s union on…

The Indian society coming from pre-historic times is at least 3000 years old. We have evolved from a society, which depicted the most sensual postures of a couple’s union, on the holy temples and religious places. But today? We can’t talk about sex, nor come out expressing about our own gender, and how we feel about it. Where did we go wrong? Why did we go wrong? When did we go wrong? Our present Indian culture is a cocktail of cultures from around the globe. There is no more ‘Indian culture’ in the real world and no place for ‘authenticity’. Realism and authenticity are only found in people, who are living in an environment that even lacks the basic facilities recommended by the United Nations.

The social changes brought by revolutionary leaders, and social reformers meant, ‘sex’ from being one of the best forms of recreation, soon became a taboo in the Indian society. The British rule too imposed British ideologies in marriage and relationships among the people. Since then, the world is far different than what generations before us might have thought we would be living in. Our society, environment, and literally everything is polluted, contaminated and wrecked.

Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

At this juncture, comes the debate of having sex with someone whom an individual likes. Similarly, the notion of ‘sex with a single partner’ is maligned, given the changing mindsets of the people. We are here to look into the wild and untouched realities that define what SEXUAL FREEDOM and FREEDOM IN SEX really mean!

SEXUAL FREEDOM

Prior to the 21st century, most of the Indian men and women had confined their sexual relationship with their partner. The internet and communication revolution that began in the early 21st century, impact the marital equations and the way relationships are perceived. With access to millions of different kinds of people across continents, unlike in the past, in the form of social networking sites, online chat sites, porn and adult content stories, pervertism slowly crept into young minds of both men and women. Going out on a date with a boy or girl seemed to be an issue, a decade ago. But now, refraining from a live-in relation seems to be offensive by the modern world. From the notion of having sex with the beloved partner, it slowly moved to casual sex encounters and one-night stands with strangers.

High rise in casual sex encounters…

In fact, in cosmopolitan and metropolitan cities, there has been a high-rise in casual sex encounters among women, than in men. Similarly, a survey pointed out the fact that, Indian are losing their virginity at a younger age. This has been more in the case of educated youth. We are definitely no one to stop someone from having sex with a person of their choice. At the same time, we have the responsibility towards the society. Living in society, where Sexual Freedom is exploited, can clearly put the future of young kids at stake.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

Sex is no more an expression of love. Nor it is a recreation anymore. Sex has become an addiction among the youth. It is no more related to love or affection. It all comes down to meet with the rushing hormones when people are on high. Sex is greatly limited to sexual pleasure; the pleasure a man or a woman derives, given the stimulation of their sexual organs. Finding a youngster of this generation, with chastity is almost impossible. Girls were victims of pervert men in the past. Not anymore these days. In fact, many girls are keen to be a part of sexual adventures under pseudo-identities with strangers. Likewise, men started perceiving having sexual encounters is the new trend in the society.

The changing mindsets….

‘Sex’ has slowly from four walls of the bedroom, to open terrace. Later, it moved into secluded areas in parks and outskirts of the cities. But now, at the end of every street, in a car, we find people involving in intimacy. It is a bitter truth that we cannot avoid such instances while walking with our kids. Meanwhile, the latest trend is ‘selfie-sex’, where one shoots their sexual encounters. These videos often end up on porn sites, thanks to the unworthy friends, with whom they share with.

The addiction to sex not only hampers the current generation, but also has a strong impact on the upcoming generations. Things have gone to a limit where, men and women are against marriage, fearing the need to limit their sexual adventures. From one partner, it has become multiple partners. There is no question of kids when one doesn’t get into a marriage. Even if a woman gets impregnated, the corrupt system is kind enough to let them go under the knife without being noticed.

 Don’t get into relations if sex is all that matters!

It all comes down to an individual’s choice, on how to lead their life. One cannot link chastity and sanctity of a human being with their physical body. At the same time, one should also have control over their physical desires. If not, what is the difference between human beings and animals? For people willing to lead their lives in a ‘Sexual Freedom’ mode, he or she should refrain themselves from getting into any relations. In case if these people end up getting into relationships, and still run after multiple partners to appease their sexual desires, the future generations from them will surely end up living pathetic and perverted lives. Any two individuals can have sex with mutual consent. But they have to think whether it is just their hormonal rush or something that adds meaning to their sexual encounter.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

In no way, we are against ‘Sexual Freedom’. But we believe, the society in which we are living isn’t really educated or enlightened to accept these notions, as of now. There have been instances where couples claimed that allowing their partner to have sex with a stranger, brought them closer. Maybe, that seems more like an understanding between two individuals, who are willing to stay in the marital relationship, yet free from each of them.

FREEDOM IN SEX

How ‘Freedom in Sex’ is different from ‘Sexual Freedom’?

So what does ‘Freedom in Sex’ mean? How is different from ‘Sexual Freedom’? There is indeed a lot of difference between the two. Talking about Sexual Freedom in simple terms, it is the willingness to have sex with anyone (literally), with mutual consent. No way, people involved in ‘Sexual Freedom’ speak about relationships, and values. It is purely Sex, Sex and Sex all the way. But that’s not the case with ‘Freedom in Sex’. Here we are talking about relationships, ethics and leading life values. Even in this case, the couple often gets into live-in relationships, and it isn’t a sin. But getting into live-in relations just for the sake of having sex, is absolutely disgusting to its core.

Instead, a couple can spend time in understanding each other, understanding their preferences, emotions, feelings, hardships, highs and lows, and about each other’s past. This can make their lives, more welcoming, exciting and warm.

What needs to be done?Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

They need to put their inhibitions aside and be more open to the opposite partner. Instead of having a physical union, the couple should realize the importance of emotionally, and mystical bonding prior to their physical union. They need to spend more time cuddling with each other. This not only allows the partners to feel each other’s body at an emotional level but also tells the bodies that, there is more than the physical aspect involved in making love. A partner shouldn’t have any inhibitions about the other partner during their time on the bed.

We are not asking an individual to limit or restrict their sexual bonding with one partner. We are indeed asking him or her, to explore what real sex is all about with their beloved one. Having ‘Freedom in Sex’ with your beloved one eliminates the threat of sexual infidelity and mental infidelity, which are the major reasons for couples to break up.

The 4 Sexual Lifestyles!

Being more open about each one’s sexuality and the way they wanted to be treated on the bed, the bonding between the couple can be taken to the next level. There exists a sense of responsibility towards each other, taking them ahead even in thickest of times. They can explore hidden worlds when they are truly lost in their love. Being open to each reduces perpetual anxiety, strain and pressure both at the physical and mental level to a great extent. Having ‘Freedom in Sex’ not only bonds the relationship, but also gives space in each other’s life. Only when a woman has the freedom to say ‘no’ on the bed, that is when the man has truly won her. This clears away passiveness, negativity and uncertainty existing in the relationship.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

Generally, a couple’s sexual style falls into four different categories:

  1. Soul Mate
  2. Emotionally Expressive
  3. Traditional
  4. Complementary

‘Soul Mate’ sexual style is the highest we can rate in general, while Complementary is the minimal to being the journey on the bed.

Ideal sexual style, yet still vulnerable to ruts…

When a couple believes that they are soul mates, their sexual intimacy is at the highest. They need to focus on deeper intimate connection rather than an orgasm. In the case of a Traditional couple, it is more of a security over eroticism in the relation. The traditional marriages usually result in low-sex life, which can be improved.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

Likewise, in the case of Emotionally Expressive sexual style, couples often find a reason to get on high. They end up having a make-up sex. The reason can be anything; from boozing to getting into a stiff fight after a heated argument. Complimentary style of sex is something that exists in the case of a passive and active partner. While one partner takes the initiative, the other follows it. Though it is the ideal sexual style, it is still vulnerable to ruts.

‘Freedom in Sex’ is something that can unite all the above. Starting off hesitantly from Complimentary sexual style, one can climb up the ladder towards the Soul Mate sexual style, and parallelly enjoy all styles of sexual life, and live life to its fullest.

CONCLUSION:

Having a great sex life is not about having sex with multiple partners in the name of ‘modern day world’ or ‘global trends’. It’s about understanding the importance of the other partner, and living a deep, connected and immersed life with the beloved one. No doubt you would have the same woman/man on the bed day after day, night after night. But the moments shared with her/him can be cherished. She/he will be with you for lifelong, listening to all those moments you both have experienced.Difference Between Sexual Freedom and Freedom in Sex

That is definitely not the case in ‘Sexual Freedom’. You don’t even know with whom you lasted the previous night, or will go ahead for the next night. There is always a hint of insecurity, infidelity and confidence when you are on a bed with a stranger. They meet two hours prior and shall leave you two hours later. A philosopher once said, ‘Sexual Freedom will destroy Desire’! Similarly, ‘Freedom in Sex’ will keep the sexual desire in you, as long as you wish for it!

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